If you’re reading this, chances are you know that 17 May is IDAHOBIT – the International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia, Interphobia, and Transphobia. It marks a really important moment: the day the World Health Organization finally said that being LGBTQIA+ is not a mental illness. That might seem like a long time ago, but the impact of that decision is still felt today as we continue to fight for understanding, acceptance, and equality.
Maybe you’ve felt that sting of being misunderstood, judged, or even targeted just for being who you are. Maybe you’ve felt the weight of hiding a part of yourself, or the frustration of explaining something that should just be. It’s important to remember, your feelings are valid, and you are not alone.
As humans, we are wired to connect. We need to feel safe, seen, and like we belong. When those basic needs are threatened because of your sexual orientation or gender identity, it can take a real toll on your mental health. Psychologists call this “minority stress,” and it’s like carrying an extra weight of worry and pressure every day. This can sometimes lead to feeling more anxious, down, and maybe lead you to cope in ways that aren’t healthy in the long run.
IDAHOBIT is a powerful reminder that there’s a whole community standing with you. It’s a day for allies to show their support, maybe by flying the pride flag, using your pronouns correctly, or speaking up when they hear something hurtful. These things send huge signals of safety and acceptance in a world that isn’t always kind.
And visibility matters. Seeing others like you, hearing your stories reflected, knowing you’re not the only one navigating these experiences can be life-affirming. It pushes back against the feeling of being invisible or like you don’t matter.
If you’re feeling isolated and uncertain, there are things you can do.
- Connect: Reach out to friends, family members, or LGBTQIA+ groups where you feel safe and understood. Sharing your experiences with people who get it can make a world of difference.
- Seek Support: If you’re struggling, please know that it’s okay to ask for help. There are amazing resources available, including mental health professionals who specialise in working with LGBTQIA+ youth. Don’t hesitate to reach out to school counselors, community centers, or online support services.
- Be Proud: Celebrate who you are! Your identity is a beautiful and valuable part of you. Don’t let anyone dim your light.
- Find Your Allies: Look for those who support you, who listen without judgment, and who stand up for you. Allies can be a lifeline.
- Practice Self-Care: Take time to do things that make you feel good, whether it’s listening to music, spending time in nature, creating art, or just relaxing. You deserve to prioritise your well-being.
Remember, your journey is unique, and there will be ups and downs. But you are stronger than you know, and there’s a community that believes in you. IDAHOBIT is just one day, but the fight for equality and the journey towards feeling safe and valued continues every day. Know that you are seen, you are valued, and you absolutely belong.
Let’s keep building a world where every young person can grow up feeling safe, accepted, and proud of who they are.