After almost 2 years of living through a pandemic, amid yet another wave of outbreak, it’s fair to say for many of us our reliance and tolerance have been tested. Those of us living with others may know all too well how the pandemic has impacted our relationships with our families – sometimes for the best and sometimes with some struggles and conflict.
Living under one roof for extended periods with the limitations of the restrictions has not been easy. Some of us may have experienced negative or challenging impacts upon our relationships with those we live with.
Issues that have put more stress on families
- Remote learning for children
- Working from home
- Changes to routine and structure
- Lack of space and time out for oneself
- Limited interactions with others outside of the family home
- Stress of uncertainty
- Limited options to take a break or holiday
- Too much time together without distractions – leading to feelings of frustration/resentment/boredom
- Not enough quality time spent together
- The collective struggle of managing the impacts of multiple lockdowns
Have you experienced any of the following?
- Intense feelings of overwhelm
- Ongoing conflict with your loved ones
- A desire to be alone
- Struggling to adapt to your child’s developmental milestones
- Feelings of inadequacy
- A sense of dread/fear
- Feelings of anger/resentment
- Uncertainty about your relationships
- Feeling unappreciated/ taken for granted
- Fear about your family contracting COVID-19
- Feeling overly protective
As we continue to adapt to our changeable environments, what do we need to foster and nurture our relationships and find a way to give back and restore our connection to one another?
Finding a way back to connection isn’t always easy. It takes time, effort, and a willingness from all parties. What we need are new shared experiences, things to come together over again. Perhaps it’s taking some time to adapt to life again after such a long period of lockdown. Perhaps tensions are running high and there are unspoken issues forging a divide. Perhaps there is a sense of withdrawal, challenging the face of real connection. Whatever the outcome, making new memories together is essential to moving through this transition.
So what might that look like for you as a family?
- Taking a break in a different setting
- Connecting with others as a family
- Establishing boundaries for yourself – time alone, with others, and time for family
- Giving back to yourself and each other – by making time for meaningful conversations/time spent together
- Nurturing teenagers’ independence – allowing them more space, providing them with opportunities to take on more responsibility
- Striking a balance between caretaking and showing love and support to your loved ones
- Clear honest communication with others
- Knowing your limitations and when to ask for support – reducing the risk of resentment forming
If you or your family are feeling impacted throughout this transition, then Family Therapy might be a great way to support you at this time. Mind Up has a team of Counsellors and Psychologists who can support you and assist you to gain further insight and awareness of yourself, each other, and what you are needing from one another; to ensure you can foster and nurture healthy relationships.
If you would like to get support, book a session with Leyna Fennell. Leyna is a Relational Supervisor and Humanistic Psychotherapist, who works with families, couples, and individuals. Leyna has a strong interest in supporting individual growth, self-awareness, and establishing areas for development, with a focus on building healthy relationships with those she works with.