Most people are apprehensive about therapy, and that’s normal! It is a natural human instinct to be nervous about the unknown.
It’s strange to think that you will meet someone you don’t know anything about, and tell them things you may have never told anyone before, especially if those things cause you distress, shame, or guilt. I wonder if you would be less nervous if you thought about it in this way; you are sharing your feelings with someone that has no expectations of you, someone who has no investment in your life?
Talking to a therapist is like talking to a friend; someone who will work with you and empathize with you, but on the other hand, someone who won’t judge you and start on a clean slate with you.
I’m wondering if you’re nervous because you don’t know what will happen in therapy?
Usually, your first session will be a get-to-know-you session. Your therapist will ask you lots of questions about yourself, the problems you are facing, and maybe about your history. If you don’t feel comfortable talking about a particular topic, you can let your therapist know; there are ways around getting to know you without talking about particular topics.
In the following sessions, your therapist will talk to you about your problem and help you understand what is going on for you, this is better known as psychoeducation. Often we find clients report feeling less distressed once they understand what is going on for them and why.
Your therapist will work with you to develop strategies and skills to help you live your life with reduced distress caused by the problems you are facing. If you have any questions or are concerned that therapy isn’t progressing, you should talk to your therapist. It is important to remember that this is a collaboration between you and your therapist, so it is crucial to be open and honest with your therapist.
I bet there are still some of you that will be skeptical.
Is therapy actually going to work for me?
What if I go to a couple of sessions and I still feel the same?
Here is a challenge for you, ask yourself what is the worst that is going to happen?
You showed up, you proved to yourself that you are motivated and you are invested in yourself. That is usually the first step for a lot of people, and that is a big challenge for some people. You may have overcome your fear of sharing your feelings with someone, or sitting with your distress. That is a positive outcome. It may not have been the outcome you were hoping for, but it is something. And if that’s the worst-case scenario, therapy isn’t looking too bad.
For most people, therapy will bring positive, successful outcomes. Evidence suggests that a large portion of positive change and successful client outcomes is a result of the relationship between the therapist and the client. It is relieving for both clients and therapists to know that if you want to increase your chances of successful outcomes all you have to do is build a good relationship with your therapist.
If you are still nervous, apprehensive, or skeptical about therapy and the outcomes you could achieve, I encourage you to reach out to one of our therapists at Mind Up and book an intake call. You can discuss your presenting issues or concerns that need to be addressed prior to and during therapy.